*Please note that this blonde, Jen Tucker, recognizes her issues can cross hair color borders. She welcomes all people, with open arms, that have ever suffered from blonde moments, blonde jokes, or ate a Blondie brownie, regardless of the color at their roots.*
Summertime is here! Maybe not according to the seasonal calendar, yet it’s true according to the school calendar here in West Lafayette, Indiana. We are only a few days into June, yet in my mind I have already moved mentally into July. Most people think of July as the month we celebrate our freedom as a country. There are concerts under the stars and dancing fireworks in the night air, vacations on sandy beaches collecting seashells, and hot, sticky days with drippy popsicles just waiting for you. July is all of those things to me and more. The extra bonus July brings to our family is my oldest son, Wil, turns sixteen and I am not prepared for this in any way, shape or form *Jen grabs a tissue; blots watering eyes*.

Have you seen this classic 80s movie? I pray it never becomes my reality!
I do not feel I am possibly old enough to be the mother of a sixteen year old. So already, you know I have delusions I should seek professional help for. We are facing the music playing on the car stereo: driving permits, driving lessons, and the dreaded *cue the da-da-daaaaaaaaaaaa music* insurance for male, teenage drivers. Be still my aching wallet. I would really prefer to crawl into my happy place hole right about now. Back to the times Wil and I laid on the floor, racing Matchbox cars for hours would be a lovely place to visit right about now. The extra layer on the cake is that we, as parents residing in the state of Indiana, are required to spend 50 hours supervising Wil driving. Fifty hours. Five with a zero. Upon hearing that tidbit from a fellow parent in my shoes, I thought, piece of cake! Immediately after that thought rolled through my brain, I began dissecting how long 50 hours of driving is. Yeah, it’s a long, long, loooong time. It is also something we are tardy commencing.
I want you to be prepared when educating a new driver in your family, and please learn from my lack of being on the ball. Here are tips to help you through this time of transition in your life, and your child’s.

This baby is not my baby, yet this is the image in my head when I picture my children behind the wheel
- Have “The Talk”: Mike and I never formally sat Wil down previous to this looming birthday to seriously discuss about driving preparation. That is something we should have done last year at this time. Yeah, we chatted in passing. “Hey, when you are 16, I am totally sending you to pick up a gallon of milk every time you scarf one down; that means daily. Won’t that be fun for you, Wil?” We failed to ask Wil how he felt about this privilege he was eligible to earn. Was he ready? Did he understand that with driving a car comes great responsibility? Make no mistake, it is a privilege to command an auto, and your children should know that.
- Seek and ye shall find: Every state has different rules for obtaining a driving permit and the education required to smile for your license photo. By the way, my eyes are closed in my license photo, much like they are in all our family photos. I take after my grandmother in that respect. Check out http://www.dmv.org where you can search for information on anything from driver’s permits to insurance rates for your state.
- Do not go the road less traveled: Ask friends residing in your state that have been through prepping a teenager for driving their advice. It is important to learn what worked, and what didn’t work, in their particular situation and take away what pertains to your child. Although the legal hoops to jump through are the same, everyone learns differently. Your child might feel more comfortable in a one-on-one situation with a licensed instructor versus a large class room. Find out the educational options in your area.
- Haste does not win the race: You might think there is no way in the world you would give your child keys to the car because you’ve seen how they roll first playing Mario Kart. Just the thought of backing out of the driveway, might cause your offspring acid reflux. Driving must be a mutual decision. Your child may not be ready at the age of 16 to secure a license, and that’s okay! It shouldn’t be a sprint to reach the finish line in this situation. According to car-accidents.com, “over 5,000 teens ages 16 to 20 die due to fatal injuries caused car accidents. Around 400,000 drivers age 16 to 20 will be seriously injured.” That is 405,000 accidents too many. Know your child. Know their strengths and weaknesses. Make tough decisions with their best interest at heart.
- If you hear the phone, leave it alone: Your car is not a beauty parlor, so don’t curl your eyelashes while driving. Your car is not the place to write your first novel, so don’t text while driving. What kind of example are you setting as a driver for your kids? I am not without fault; I bragged on occasion, in high school, about steering with my knees while putting on lipstick. Today, I rather fancy lip gloss and apply it before I leave the house; never when lives are in my hands.According to the U.S. Department of Transportation, 3,000 people were killed in 2010 due to distracted driving incidents. Again, 3,000 deaths too many. Make serious rules with serious consequences for your teen if they are broken. It goes without saying; your child is precious. Keep them safe and smart out on the road.
For more information visit these websites:
http://www.distraction.gov
http://www.teendriving.com
http://www.teenatthewheel.com
http://www.slideshare.net/drivewithcare/tips-for-parents-with-teenage-drivers-2866033
Author Jen Tucker wrties women's nonfiction and also children's books. She describes her most important roles in this life as that of Jesus freak, wife, mother, daughter, friend, and pizza consumer. Mostly in that order! Thanks for stopping by to spend time with her.

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